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May 24, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Narcissism has been compared to demonic possession. Is there any truth to it? And how about psychopaths and borderlines? Is the False Self not an alien spirit? Are narcissists not evil and diabolical?   Buy most of my books in Amazon https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3
Topics: demons, possession, morality, satan, devil, diabolical, amok, god, shadow, complexes, dark side,...
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The cluster B personality disorders (narcissistic, borderline, and antisocial-psychopathy) may be mere kaleidoscopic facets of an underlying dissociative process, amounting, in extreme cases, to full-fledged DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder, formerly known as Multiple Personality Disorder). In other words: these personality types are self-states, "alters" of each other.    Having endured narcissistic injury or mortification, a trauma, or severe anxiety and stress, these patients...
Topics: Psychopath, antisocial, language speech, shadow, complexes, dark side, repression, defences,...
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May 18, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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What Freud Had to Say? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIsC0FwJ_5Q   Full text: http://samvak.tripod.com/faq50.html and http://samvak.tripod.com/faq51.html   In the narcissist , the False Self usurps the role of the Ego and fulfils its functions: mediation between the individual and the world and a sense of personal continuity .   Using Jung’s language (shadow, complexes, images, archetypes, repressed material) to describe the narcissist’s early childhood.   Buy most of my books in...
Topics: jung, freud, shadow, complexes, dark side, repression, defences, unconscious, consciousness, ego,...
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May 18, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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The artist communicates his inner world to an audience and tries to translate the private language of his mind to a universal dialect. The narcissist is an artist, therefore. But he is ill-equipped to create art because he lacks the basic components of being human and has no access to the meta dictionary that connects all people (empathy). This is why the narcissist renders himself - his personality and his life - his only work of art. Buy most of my books in Amazon...
Topics: art, artist, language, mind, brain, communication, dictionary, pain, emotions, experience,...
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Your questions about the narcissist's shared fantasy and mortification, sex, and intimacy answered. As far as their fans are concerned, celebrities fulfil two emotional functions: they provide a mythical narrative (a story that the fan can follow and identify with) and they function as blank screens onto which the fans project their dreams, hopes, fears, plans, values, and desires (wish fulfilment). The slightest deviation from these prescribed roles provokes enormous rage and makes us want to...
Topics: narcissist, borderline, mortification, shock, shame, guilt, fear, personality, false self, true...
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May 17, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Increasingly more grandiose, people are injured and humiliated by and shun the truly intelligent, expert, knowledgeable, and insightful. They opt for ersatz fake gold. It is not surprising that the latter - the Western trickster "coaches" and conspiracy theorists - often quote the former (the Indian phonies) . They are specimen of the same family of lethal intellectual viruses in human form.   There is a tsunami of mental health disorders heading our way. It is projected to affect at...
Topics: guru, genius, life coach, fraud, impostor, fraudster, con artist, scammer, deception,...
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Confronting split-off, repressed material is still an important part of many psychodynamic therapies. It has been shown to reduce anxiety, cure conversion symptoms and, generally, have a beneficial and therapeutic effect on the individual. Yet, this has nothing to do with integration. It has to do with conflict resolution. That various parts of the personality are in constant conflict is an integral principle of all psychodynamic theories. Dredging split-off material to our consciousness...
Topics: jung, freud, shadow, complexes, dark side, repression, defences, unconscious, consciousness, ego,...
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Sadistic Personality Disorder http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders31.html   The Sadistic Narcissist http://samvak.tripod.com/faq56.html   Sadists like to inflict pain because they find suffering, both corporeal and psychological, amusing. They torture animals and people because, to them, the sights and sounds of a creature writhing in agony are hilarious and pleasurable. Sadists go to great lengths to hurt others: they lie, deceive, commit crimes, and even make personal sacrifices...
Topics: sadist, sadism, pain, hurt, humiliation, degradation, narcissistic supply, mortification,...
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May 12, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Self-love is not Narcissism http://samvak.tripod.com/faq23.html   Self-love is a healthy self-regard and the pursuit of one's happiness and favorable outcomes. It rests on four pillars:   1. Self-awareness: an intimate, detailed and compassionate knowledge of oneself, a SWOT analysis: strengths, weaknesses, others's roles, and threats   2. Self-acceptance: the unconditional embrace of one's core identity, personality, character, temperament, relationships, experiences, and life...
Topics: self love, narcissism, egotism, happiness, awareness, acceptance, trust, self-efficacy, experience,...
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May 10, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Full text here: http://samvak.tripod.com/faq01.html   Narcissists love borderlines because they can mortify them, like their mothers did.   Borderlines hurt narcissists because they love them.   Buy most of my books in Amazon https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3
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May 10, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Full text here: http://samvak.tripod.com/disease.html   Bystanders resent and shun the sick because they make them feel anxious. The ill threaten the healthy person’s sense of security and her much-needed belief in predictability, justice, and rule of natural law.   The patients, on their part, do not believe that it is possible to effectively communicate to "outsiders" what they have been through. The torture chambers known as hospital wards are "another galaxy". This...
Topics: Disease, health, illness, narcissism, healthcare, doctors, pandemic, torture, pain, body, mind,...
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Full text here: http://samvak.tripod.com/faq01.html   The False Self in Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is akin to the host personality in Dissociative Identity Disorder: to moderate and to switch between self-states is a secondary psychopath and to regulate the resulting repression, denial, splitting, dissociation, and other infantile defenses in an attempt to maintain self-constancy rather than object constancy.   Mortification is an extreme and intolerably painful form of...
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Narcissistic mortification, is, therefore, a sudden sense of defeat and loss of control over internal or external objects or realities, caused by an aggressing person or a compulsive trait or behavior. It produces disorientation and terror (distinct from anticipatory fear).     The entire personality is overwhelmed by impotent ineluctability and a lack of alternatives (inability to force objects to conform or to rely on their goodwill). Mortification reflects the activity of infantile...
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May 5, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Shared Fantasy Phase (Infatuation/Love Bombing/Honeymoon, sexuality: sadistic-humiliation kink, exclusivity)   The narcissist intentionally suspends judgment and renders himself gullible and delusional only when it comes to emotions, intimacy, capacity and intent to hurt him, and the nature and intensity of the relationship.   He idealizes the partner and uses splitting, denial, confirmation bias, rescuer or wizard role, Wunderkind Mask (genius), and grandiosity.   But even so, it is only...
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There are three phases to the narcissist's relationships with women.   The ADMIRER: endows the narcissist with the confidence needed to approach the woman (only his brain or body are attractive, the rest and his personality are repulsive)   The PLAYMATE: includes rudimentary courting, sex, and fun activities and simulates the typical behaviors of a MAN in the initial stages of a relationship. Helps to deceive both the narcissist and the woman into believing that he is a proper, fully-evolved...
Topics: Narcissist, woman, intimacy, partner, admirer, playmate, sex, mother, child, regression, panic,...
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Irony: is our self awareness too late in the game?   Mass or collective narcissistic injury:   As a species Nature uses virus to humble us, small, interdependent, defiance and contumaciousness punished   Omnipotence. Limits to our growth, helplessness headless chicken   Omniscience Failure of grandiose medicine   Vulnerability We are all fallible and dead   Fragility Our social institutions broken   Anxiety No future, economic or otherwise   Failure: Ask the young   Additional...
Topics: nature, pandemic, epidemic, disease, culling, eugenics, health, mind, body, pathogens, virus,...
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Apr 28, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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The Toxicity of Social Media: From Conditioning to Rehab Social media were designed to attract "eyeballs" and monetize them via targeted advertising. To guarantee repeat use, the technology fostered the diminishment of impulse control and delayed gratification and emphasized relative positioning (envy and status via ranking). It also deliberately rewarded escalating aggression. These led to the operant conditioning of the users of these platforms and to addictive behaviors. Addiction,...
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Is the pandemic Nature's way of penalizing us for our environmental excesses, culling our numbers - or maybe improving the stock via eugenic means (ridding us the old and the infirm)?   Additional Literature   http://samvak.tripod.com/nature.html   http://samvak.tripod.com/naturesex.html   http://samvak.tripod.com/anthropy.html
Topics: nature, pandemic, epidemic, disease, culling, eugenics, health, mind, body, pathogens, virus,...
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Envy, uncertainty, and rage globalized will lead to bloody revolutions. The pandemic spells the end of entrepreneurship, small to medium businesses, and self-employment and the rise of the gig temp contractor economy. It also catalyzes the shift from the real economy to the trading in expectations.   World in Conflict and Transition   http://samvak.tripod.com/guide.html   http://www.youtube.com/vakninmusings
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Envy, uncertainty, and rage globalized will lead to bloody revolutions. The pandemic spells the end of entrepreneurship, small to medium businesses, and self-employment and the rise of the gig temp contractor economy. It also catalyzes the shift from the real economy to the trading in expectations.
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Apr 25, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Is sex fluid or biologically determined at birth? Is love a mental illness or an addiction? Is gender socially and culturally determined? Did feminism undermine the future of the species or are men to blame as well?
Topics: Sex, gender, women, men, relationships, love, mental illness, addiction, brain, mind, biochemistry,...
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Somatic and cerebral narcissists, both overt and covert, maintain special relationships with their bodies. Convo with Charles Bowes-Taylor Web: http://www.narcissism.co.za Mailto:info@narcissism.co.za Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3
Topics: bdsm, sex, libido, sexuality, deviance, perversion, paraphilia, sadism, masochism, gender roles,...
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Apr 22, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Not all covert narcissists are inverted narcissists. But all inverted narcissists are covert (“shy”, “fragile”) narcissists. They are self-centred, sensitive, vulnerable, and defensive, or hostile, and paranoid. They harbour grandiose fantasies and have a strong sense of entitlement. They tend to exploit other, albeit stealthily and subtly. Covert narcissists are aware of their innate limitations and shortcomings and, therefore, constantly fret and stress over their inability to fulfil...
Topics: inverted narcissist, covert narcissist, passive-aggressive, manipulative, defiant, abuse,...
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Apr 20, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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The history, present, and future of the family http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/family.html Marriage transformed and reframed http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/marriage.html The Death of Sex and the Demise of Monogamy https://www.amazon.com/Death-Sex-Demise-Monogamy/dp/1521121206
Topics: marriage, family, society, children, wealth, generations, sex, women, men, manosphere, feminism,...
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Cuckolds and swingers are not psychopathic narcissists. Their motivations are: 1.    Latent and overt bisexuality and homosexuality: both men and women (but especially women) adopt swinging as a way to sample same-sex experiences in a tolerant, at times anonymous, and permissive environment; 2.    The Slut-Madonna Complex: to be sexually attracted to their spouses, some men need to “debase” and “humiliate” them by witnessing their “sluttish” conduct with others; 3.   ...
Topics: Sex, sexuality, narcissist, psychopath, swinger, swinging, lifestyle, cuckold, cuckquean, intimacy,...
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The Death of Sex and the Demise of Monogamy https://www.amazon.com/Death-Sex-Demise-Monogamy/dp/1521121206 Pick-up artists (PUA) are communities of men, guided by self-imputed "experts" who purport to have found the exact sequences of buttons to push to get a woman to succumb and offer access to her body. They fail to see the irony: like homebroken and trained puppies they jump through hoops held high by females and adhere religiously to a script written entirely by the fairer sex:...
Topics: sex, women, men, manosphere, mgtow, incel, red piller, black piller, feminism, relationships,...
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Apr 14, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Vaccines are the best and most efficacious thing that modern medicine has ever come up with. But, what are vaccines? How do they activate the immune system and do they affect the rest of the body or our minds? NEW VIDEO COVID-19 Panic Merchants: Lies, Conspiracies, and Statistics (Oh, and Science)   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDZLIOeRYLM https://archive.org/details/covidconspiracy NEW VIDEO COVID-19: The War of the Olds (against the Young) and Narcissism, of course...
Topics: vaccination, immunization, vaccines, incoculation, immune system, covid19, pandemic, virus,...
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Apr 13, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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The consequences of our policies may be more detrimental than the virus. Tests, medication, vaccines. A lesson in virology and how viruses work. NEW VIDEO Narcissistic Coronavirus for Narcissistic Civilization https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oN6i3Gx22kc https://archive.org/details/coronavirus_20200314 NEW VIDEO COVID-19 Punishes Our Narcissism (Original Sin)  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5TC1ghG70U https://archive.org/details/coronaupdate NEW VIDEO Pandemics: COVID19 and Daddy Issues in...
Topics: covid19, coronavirus, medical, medicine, doctors, lies, conspiracies, false, misinformation,...
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Real or perceived rejection leads patients with cluster B personality disorders to react with hypervigilance. The narcissist's grandiosity is challenged (narcissistic injury) and it often results in narcissistic rage. The primary psychopath sees rejection as a frustrating obstacle to be overcome and vindictively obliterated. The secondary psychopath see it all in the framework of a power play to be won. The borderline patient catastrophises and considers every rejection, however minor or...
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The narcissist is a traumatized child cowering in the body of an adult, magically shielded by a godlike False Self, an imaginary friend. He then proceeds to abusively impose the worship of this divinity on everyone. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 3 DVDs with 16 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships:...
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Latest news from the pandemic are good all around. But if God is good and benevolent - why did he allow it to happen? Listen to the message in the last minute of the vid to find out.
Topics: god, panic, pandemic, covid19, evil, good
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Apr 9, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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NEW VIDEO COVID-19: Sheeple, Pandemic, and Power Grabs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3P3ehWjiuH4 NEW VIDEO COVID-19: The Panicdemic and What's to Come https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZiOdxRluLF8  https://archive.org/details/panicdemics NEW VIDEO COVID-19 Panic Merchants: Lies, Conspiracies, and Statistics (Oh, and Science)   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYWWvSTQkNI https://archive.org/details/covidconspiracy NEW VIDEO Pandemics: COVID19 and Daddy Issues in Borderline-Narcissist Couples...
Topics: epidemiology, immunity, susceptible, population, death rate, mortality, fatality, covid19,...
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Apr 7, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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NEW VIDEO Narcissistic Coronavirus for Narcissistic Civilization https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oN6i3Gx22kc https://archive.org/details/coronavirus_20200314 NEW VIDEO COVID-19 Punishes Our Narcissism (Original Sin)  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5TC1ghG70U https://archive.org/details/coronaupdate NEW VIDEO Pandemics: COVID19 and Daddy Issues in Borderline-Narcissist Couples https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23tQTkf2F0U https://archive.org/details/bpdnpddaddy NEW VIDEO Pandemics: COVID-19 and...
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Apr 5, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Promiscuity: Psychology of Self-Soothing with Sex (oh, and Relationships) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhA8HGz_VqY Women look for FIVE qualities in men for a long-term relationship: 1. Good Judgment; 2. Intelligence; 3. Faithfulness; 4. Affectionate behavior; 5. Financial responsibility and wherewithal. Women look for TEN qualities in a male partner for casual sex or a sexual affair: 1. Nice body (but not too muscular); 2. Has money and not stingy; 3. Kindness; 4. Interested in them (finds...
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Sex is a form of self-soothing for some folks. It is meaningless - but so is everything and everyone else in their lives There are three types of promiscuity: frequency, conditional-contextual, and standards. In Frequency Promiscuity, the quantity of partners and sexual encounters is statistically abnormal - but some criteria and standards are maintained throughout with regards to mate selection, what little time is spent together, minimal emotions (liking the partner, affection, feeling good...
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The unwarranted panic was engendered by narcissistic doctors and leveraged by psychopathic politicians to grab power. Misinformation is deliberately spread by unscrupulous doctors and increasingly more tyrannical authorities. Examples: the case fatality rate of SARS Cov-2 is the same as the flu virus, not higher - and asymptomatic carriers of the virus are not infectious. As the pandemic proceeds apace. at least in the hysterical media, hospitals are becoming major vectors of transmission....
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The narcissist has 3 essential demands from his partner and companion, 3 Ss: Sex, Supply, Services. If she provides any 2 of these 3, he is pacified and ignores her: she is a captive and he is indifferent to her emotions, needs, and wishes. He takes her silent, acquiescing presence in his life for granted: an inert, lifeless, and objectified or even mummified fixture. The narcissist acts similarly towards a frustrating partner who provides only 1 or none of the 3 Ss: by withdrawing and...
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Mar 31, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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If anyone is to blame for the mass panic that swept across the globe, it is the medical profession. It failed us beyond words in providing a measured, reasoned, proportional, and analytical response to this health crisis. Yesterday, the White House's coordinator, Dr. Brix suggested in a public statement that 200,000 people might die in the USA (based on the flimsiest of evidence and on undisclosed mathematical models not available for peer review and scrutiny). Dr. Fauci of NIAID is not far...
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Mar 30, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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NEW VIDEO Narcissistic Coronavirus for Narcissistic Civilization https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oN6i3Gx22kc https://archive.org/details/coronavirus_20200314 NEW VIDEO COVID-19 Punishes Our Narcissism (Original Sin)  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5TC1ghG70U https://archive.org/details/coronaupdate NEW VIDEO Pandemics: COVID19 and Daddy Issues in Borderline-Narcissist Couples https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23tQTkf2F0U https://archive.org/details/bpdnpddaddy NEW VIDEO Pandemics: COVID-19 and...
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Mar 27, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Social isolation with the narcissist is a hostage situation: intermittent reinforcement leads to trauma bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome.  The pandemic challenges the narcissist's grandiosity. The narcissist displaces his need for control onto his spouse or intimate partner.  It is difficult to obtain scarce narcissistic supply in a pandemic, so the narcissist reverts to his partner and when she frustrates his insatiable appetite, he becomes aggressive: sexually demanding or withholding,...
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Mar 27, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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After the COVID-19 pandemic, sex and relationships are never going to be the same. NEW VIDEO Narcissistic Coronavirus for Narcissistic Civilization https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oN6i3Gx22kc https://archive.org/details/coronavirus_20200314 NEW VIDEO COVID-19 Punishes Our Narcissism (Original Sin)  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5TC1ghG70U https://archive.org/details/coronaupdate NEW VIDEO Pandemics: COVID19 and Daddy Issues in Borderline-Narcissist Couples...
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Update on the pandemic: reviewing the WHO's statements. Watch my other videos regarding this outbreak on this YouTube channel. Abusers control their victims by rendering their lives meaningless and inconsequential. The prey adopts the abuser's point of view: "You are nothing without me, unworthy trash, bad, sad, and mad". This kind of perpetual rejection and hurt often renders the abuser's judgment a self-fulfilling prophecy: CPTSD survivors are typically indistinguishable from...
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Responses to questions I have been asked about the COVID-19 pandemic. Borderline women often end up with narcissistic men. But they feel overpowered and overwhelmed in these relationships as the narcissist leverages his cold empathy to push all their buttons cruelly and repeatedly until they are triggered badly, decompensate, and act out. The Borderline partner often claims that the narcissist “made her misbehave” in dramatic or histrionic ways, drove her crazy, and that his very presence...
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WATCH Narcissistic Coronavirus for Narcissistic Civilization https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oN6i3Gx22kc https://archive.org/details/coronavirus_20200314 Update on the state of the pandemic and its economic, social, psychological, and political implications. Only 13000 died worldwide in 4 months (World Health Organization WHO and Centre for Disease Control, USA) https://www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019/situation-reports/...
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Mar 17, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Borderline Woman as Dissociative Secondary Psychopath   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I01x0o_OISE NEW VIDEO Borderline to Narcissist: I Will Abandon You First   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vc0__AzrQVA NEW VIDEO Borderline Triangulates with Rescuer to Silence Pain, Abadonment Anxiety   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2pxXjQwJy-Y Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3
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Borderline Woman as Dissociative Secondary Psychopath  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I01x0o_OISE Borderline to Narcissist: I Will Abandon You First https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vc0__AzrQVA  Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3
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Mar 14, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Borderline: I will dump you before you dump me. I will cheat on you or abuse you and this way abandon you before you get the chance to hurt me. Narcissist: I will abuse you in order to control you and because to manipulate you I need to push your button and your biggest trigger is separation anxiety. More about Borderline Personality Disorder  http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders18.html http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders50.html
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Mar 14, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Latest by the authoritative science journal New Scientist: COVID-19 (Coronavirus) kills 0.7% of those infected. 99.3% fully recover. 5000 people died, all of them above age 50 and with pre-existing conditions (such as heart disease or diabetes). The flu decimated 30,000 people in the US alone during the same period. The measures adopted by governments, communities, and individuals the world over are far more dangerous and detrimental than this or any other virus can ever be. This mass delusion,...
Topics: coronavirus, covid19, pandemic, epidemic, social media, narcissism, hysteria, panic, health,...
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Mar 12, 2020 Sam Vaknin
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Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3 Borderline and Histrionic personality disorders may be manifestations in females of secondary type psychopathy (as measured by Factor 2 of the PCL-R test). In other words: Borderline and Histrionic women may actually be psychopaths. A growing body of recent studies supports this startling conclusion. Survivors of CPTSD also manifest psychopathic and narcissistic...
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Self-declared "empaths" are narcissistic individuals who trumpet their alleged hypersensitivity as a grandiose claim to uniqueness and victimhood. "Empath" is a nonsense label hyped online but with zero clinical significance. Everyone is possessed of empathy - even narcissists and psychopaths ("cold empathy"). Everyone is, therefore, an "empath"   Admittedly, there are Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) around: their empathy is so extreme that it renders...
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"Triggering cascade" is when a seemingly minor trigger results in vastly disproportional trauma. Painful memories, replete with the attendant negative emotions, are walled behind mental barriers: combinations of dams and firewalls. Sometimes even an innocuous mishap or a merely unpleasant event rupture these defenses and decades of hurt are released in an avalanche that, at times, can be life threatening. Narcissists and psychopaths are dreamwreckers: they are particularly adept at...
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Oct 18, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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Everyone has an attachment style. But some people have "flat attachment": they are incapable of any kind of bonding or relatedness at all. Flat attachers regard other people as utterly interchangeable, replaceable, and dispensable objects or functions. When a relationship is over, people go through a period of "latency": mourning the defunct bond and processing the grief and withdrawal symptoms associated with a breakup. Not so the flat attacher: he or she transition...
Topics: intimacy, fear, dread, attachment, couple, romantic, promiscuity, defiant, sex, hurt, power play,...
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Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3 The collapsed histrionic is usually a woman with body image (somatoform) issues and a low sense of self-worth. Yet, she still needs men and uses them to regulate her flagging self-esteem and deficient self-confidence. This creates a permanent dissonance and anticipatory anxiety as such a woman expects fully to be rejected and humiliated by men. Low self-esteem...
Topics: histrionic, narcissist, personality disorder, psychology, psychiatry, failure, loser, schizoid,...
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Jun 28, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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There are numerous myths about casual sex. Men and women react to it exactly the same in the buildup to it, during the act, and in its aftermath. Casual sex is linked to negative mental health outcomes, but only in certain kinds of people: People who were drunk or drugged during the encounter or acted under peer pressure (no autonomy); with conservative or traditional or religious upbringing and moral code or in societies with such mores; people who violate promises, boundaries, rules, and vows...
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Jun 28, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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Alcoholism serves several psychological purposes effectively. This is why alcoholism is so intractable (difficult to get rid of or treat) and why recidivism is as high as 60% within the first year after rehab. 1. Palliative Helps the alcoholic to cope with dissonance, frustration, anxiety, anger, stress, sadness, panic, and other negative emotions or mood disorders 2. Restorative Helps the alcoholic to restore his or her self-confidence and self-esteem, also as a man or a woman (especially when...
Topics: alcohol, alcoholism, substance abuse, blackout, promiscuity, inhibitions, drunk, emotions,...
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Jun 27, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3 Addictions, post-traumatic behaviors, and pathological narcissism are strongly correlated: narcissism is a reaction to childhood trauma and abuse and PTSD (Post-traumatic Stress Disorder) leads to lifelong substance abuse. Indeed, CPTSD (Complex PTSD) is indistinguishable from Cluster B personality disorders with a dominant dimension of narcissism (such as...
Topics: narcissism, trauma, addiction, personality disorder, cold therapy
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Feb 3, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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Why do narcissists find the internet and social media to be irresistible hunting grounds? (Interview in English with Polska Gazeta, February 1, 2019)
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Feb 1, 2019 Sam Vaknin
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Sam Vaknin - A Prophecy of the Emergent Religion of Narcissism An episode of Intellectual Explorers Club By Intellectual Explorers Club Peter Limberg is the host and producer of the Intellectual Explorers Club podcast. A podcast of ideas. Big ideas. Ones that will enrich your map of reality, or at least make it more interesting. intellectualexplorers.club
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NEW VIDEO Narcissism, the New Faith - Part 1: Distributed God and Human Sacrifice  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b87WQj3q0_w Pathological narcissism is the abused child's personal religion, with the False Self as the godhead. The child sacrifices his true self to the false self in return for the latter's grandiose fantasies and defelection of the pain and hurt suffered by the traumatized child. The narcissist then proceeds to extract narcissistic supply from other people in order to validate...
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Pathological narcissism is the abused child's personal religion, with the False Self as the godhead. The child sacrifices his true self to the false self in return for the latter's grandiose fantasies and deflection of the pain and hurt suffered by the traumatized child. The narcissist then proceeds to extract narcissistic supply from other people in order to validate the reality of the False Self: he acts like a missionary trying to convert his sources of supply into his private religion or...
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Dec 31, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Narcissism, racism, politics, relationships: is narcissism our future? Is it a positive adaptation to our narcissistic, even psychopathic world, reality, and civilization? Sam Vaknin talks to Mumia Obsidian Ali of Obsidian Radio. Sam Vaknin, Ph.D. (+38978319143, +79884640967) Visiting Professor of Psychology, Southern Federal University, Rostov-on-Don, Russia and Professor of Finance and Psychology in CIAPS (Centre for International Advanced and Professional Studies)....
Topics: narcissism, racism, society, culture, gender, women, men, divorce, relationships, social media,...
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Dec 17, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Conversation with Alex from Ravensbourne University London, a product designer whose dissertation is titled: ‘What price would western culture pay if consumerism became its religion?’
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Oct 30, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html There are two ways to regulate intimate relationships: via intimacy or with romantic jealousy. Mature partners achieve a workable balance between togetherness and personal autonomy. They engender intimacy via both communication and actions. Intimacy feels so good that no one in his right mind will exit such a bond. Thus, both abandonment or separation anxiety...
Topics: relationships, intimacy, jealousy, regulation, narcissist, psychopath, borderline, codependent,...
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Oct 27, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Some women - single & married - use male attention to regulate their sense of self-worth (self confidence & self esteem). When low, these "attention whores" become flirtatious, seductive, cocktease, & trade sex for even the most inconsequential signs of attention: a chat, a compliment, small gifts, flowers, or a meal. Even if the attention...
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Oct 27, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1. Why do some narcissists appear to be bumbling fools, never mind how intelligent they actually are? Eight reasons: 1. No impulse control, no forethought, no foresight = counterproductive, self-defeating, and self-destructive decisions and actions. 2. Acting out: when narcissistic supply is deficient, narcissists decompensate and go haywire (see:...
Topics: narcissist, fool, stupid, idiot, retard, grandiosity, learning, advice, narcissistic injury,...
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Oct 11, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Parents of codependents teach their offspring to expect only conditional, transactional love: the child is supposed to render a service or fulfil the parent's wishes in return for affection and compassion, attention and emotion. Ineluctably, the hurt child reacts with rage to this unjust mistreatment. With no recourse to the offending parent, this fury is...
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Sep 24, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Victims are now fully aware of narcissistic abuse. Why do they keep falling for it? Why don't they resist, recoil, regroup, & retreat? Because repeat victims share two things with their abusers: a partially latent pathway of mental processing & impaired object constancy. A healthy person reacts to someone they have just met on a "gut level": a...
Topics: emotions, cognitions, object constancy, processing, abuser, victim, bonding, attachment, trauma,...
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Sep 9, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html I am witnessing three very disturbing, even terrifying trends: 1. Women have become at least as narcissistic as men if not more so. Few women are malignant and psychopathic: this is still the preserve of men. But in terms of raging grandiosity, hypervigilance, referential ideation, delusional fantasies, impulsive behavior, confabulating, and lack of empathy -...
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Original interview posted on the Spartan Life Coach channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_a2qaLRsA Capitalism is being replaced with feudalism and leads to the inevitable rise of narcissism. First of several conversations between Richard Grannon and Saqm Vaknin.
Topics: communism, capitalism, feudalism, richard grannon, spartan life coach, sam vaknin, skopje,...
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Sep 4, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html If you are afraid of intimacy you will choose a partner who is equally afraid of intimacy. We all seek love or at least companionship, but some people dread them even as they look for them (ambivalence). The intimacy-averse members of a dyad will both make sure to travel alone a lot, keep exhaustingly busy, be absent from home, withhold sex or abstain from it,...
Topics: abandonment, anxiety, cognitive, dissonance, narcissist, intimate, partner, narcissistic, supply,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Now, in view of my previous Instagram post, I am dubbed a "sexual pervert". Only one problem: there is no such thing as "perverse" sexuality. Victorian middle-class values aside, if the sexual behavior harms no one (including oneself) and is consensual (between consenting adults), then it is considered by psychologists and psychiatrists...
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The concepts of "addiction" and "(pathological) narcissism" were introduced to account for oft-recurring amalgams of behaviors, moods, emotions, and cognitions. Both are organizing, exegetic principles with some predictive powers. Both hark back to Calvinist and Puritan strands of Protestantism where excess and compulsion (inner demons) were important topics. Yet, though clearly umbilically connected, as I have demonstrated elsewhere, addictive behaviors and narcissistic...
Topics: narcissism, addiction, drugs, alcoholism, substance abuse, reckless behaviors, adrenaline, junkie,...
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Jul 31, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html People remain in abusive relationships because they lack self-confidence, their self-esteem is shot, not least by their "loving, intimate" "partner", and because they are unable to regulate their sense of self-worth. There are four common fallacies: I AM LUCKY I am worthless, damaged goods. I am lucky to have found even my abuser. If I leave...
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Jul 27, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Full text https://www.instagram.com/p/Blujq9dgQ8L/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Some people - men and women - enjoy sex only when they cheat on their spouses. They were molded in their formative years to associate pleasure and intimacy with risk, deception, and adrenaline. They are aroused by their own immorality (or amorality) and whorish promiscuity, by the...
Topics: cheating, adultery, promiscuity, extramarital, affair, love, sex, intimacy, betrayal, marriage,...
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Jul 15, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html I have written the bible about psychopathic narcissists twenty odd years ago. Yet, when I come across one, I am shaken to my foundations. There is something utterly reptilian or alien about them. Psychopathic narcissists - and histrionic and borderline women - are driven by primitive urges, unrequited needs, raw negative impulses (like rage and vindictiveness)...
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Full text here: https://www.instagram.com/p/BkuMjicgG2w/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Like the optimal toilet paper, men should be both strong and soft. It is here that narcissists fail: they are brittle and aggressive rather than soft and strong. There is no balance - only an ever-swinging pendulum. The narcissist's personality is precariously poised, his...
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Jul 4, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Full text here: https://www.instagram.com/p/BkzWiCzA4fg/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html We all try to replicate and re-enact our successes. We feel comfortable and confident doing what we do best and what we do most often. We enshrine our oft-repeated tasks and our cumulative experiences as habits. Asked to adopt new skills and confront unprecedented tasks, we...
Topics: loser, winner, narcissist, performance anxiety, life, success, failure, defeat, flop, habit,...
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Jun 23, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Read the full text on my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/BkXBUeZAAHc/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html When a woman with mental health issues is sexually or otherwise rejected by her intimate partner she acts out in one of two typical ways. This is especially true if the husband also justifies his sadistic cruelty by adding abuse & overt humiliation to...
Topics: sex, intimacy, sexless, loveless, relationship, marriage, promiscuous, cockteaser, slut, whore,...
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Read the full text on my Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/Bj65tKxAPh8/?taken-by=vakninsamnarcissist Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The tendency to remain in bad relationships - abusive, hopeless, sexless, loveless, doomed - is known as the Sunk Cost (Concorde) Fallacy (or bias). Co-owning a business or property, shared memories, and especially co-parenting tend to cement this bias and...
Topics: bail out, sunk cost fallacy, marriage, relationship, concorde fallacy, narcissistic injury,...
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Jun 23, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The mentally ill form dyads or couples. Pathologies attract each other and resonate in alliances of pain, fused relationships. Such partnerships are suffused with torment: the mentally ill spouses or intimate partners engage in mutually hurtful conduct. It is also heartbreaking to watch your loved one's inexorable decline. Gradually, the parties settle on...
Topics: mentalillness, couple, dyad, significantother, love, relationship, control, sharedpsychosis,...
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Jun 19, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html People with certain personality disorders (mainly borderline, narcissistic, compulsive-obsessive, schizotypal, and paranoid) have a "persecutory object". It is a tormenting, devaluing, and sadistic inner voice (introject). It repeatedly and authoritatively informs them that they are bad, worthless, weak, immoral, and a disappointment. Such an inner...
Topics: persecutory object, paranoia, hypervigilance, intimacy, love, hate, intimate partner, spouse,...
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May 18, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Benny Hendel and Sam Vaknin discuss the hidden messages and cryptic occult knowledge in Alice in Wonderland.
Topics: alice in wonderland, lewis carroll, oxford, secrets, occult, cryptic, mathematics, physics,...
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Benny Hendel and Sam Vaknin discuss the hidden messages and cryptic occult knowledge in Alice Through the Looking Glass.
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A 5-part dialog IN HEBREW about time, space, and the nature of reality between Benny Hendel and Sam Vaknin,
Topics: time, space, physics, reality, theory, technology
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Mar 13, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Intermittent reinforcement is actually rarely conscious. Many bullies are NOT aware of their misbehavior and deny it. Many bullies even claim to be the victims. Manipulation is the OUTCOME of intermittent reinforcement but it is rarely intentional. The Internet and the media confuse psychopaths with bullies. Psychopaths are DELIBERATELY manipulative. But only a...
Topics: bully, abuser, narcissist, psychopath, intermittent reinforcement, hot and cold,...
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Feb 12, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Histrionics respond differently to two types of men.   MEN TYPE 1   These are men who openly desire the histrionic, are infatuated with her, or even love her. The histrionic sees herself through their eyes and she likes what she sees. She falls in love with herself through them.   But after a brief affair or a few encounters with this type of men, they begin...
Topics: histrionic, narcissist, sexulaity, relationships, personality disorders, approach-avoidance...
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Jan 8, 2018 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Act as “background noise”: ask no questions, never criticize or disagree, when addressed confine your response to the issues broached and do not introduce new topics into the conversation. In short: never initiate or be proactive – always react meekly, compliantly, and subserviently. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The sadistic women-lover (philogynist) is drawn to women, desires them, covets their traits, admires them, and, generally, prefers to spend his time with them. But it is precisely this inexorable pull that terrifies him: he is awed by women’s hold over him and mortified by his own resultant women-centred obsessions and compulsions. He is poorly equipped to...
Topics: sadist, women-lover, women-hater, philogynist, misogynist, narcissist, frustrate, torture,...
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Sep 23, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is often diagnosed together (comorbid) with other personality disorders: histrionic, narcissistic, and antisocial (psychopathy). The majority of persons diagnosed with these comorbidities of personality disorders are women. Borderline Personality Disorder is a post-traumatic state which is repeatedly triggered by neglect,...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Fear of Intimacy The inner dialog, inner script, of people who fear intimacy is comprised of several strands: This (potential) intimate partner will destroy my life. I will be left with nothing and no one; I am no good. I am crazy. I will hurt this (potential) intimate partner and destroy his or her life. I must get away from him/her for his/her own good;...
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Mar 17, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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17 places left! Click on this link to secure your place: http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_EARLYBIRD (scroll to the bottom of the page to pay). Bring a paying friend or colleague to the seminar and get a refund of 10% (30 USD)! You are invited to attend the first ever certification seminar for a new treatment modality for narcissists and psychopaths, “Cold Therapy”.   The seminar will be held in Vienna, Austria, May 12-14, 2017 in the Matteo Room of Hotel am Stephensplatz...
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Feb 27, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Of course narcissists have emotions. All human beings have emotions. It is how we choose to relate to our emotions that matters. The narcissist tends to repress them so deeply that, for all practical purposes, they play no conscious role in his life and conduct, though they play an extraordinarily large unconscious role in determining both. Like everyone else,...
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Jan 31, 2017 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html The English Paediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott suggested that abused children need to hate and to be hated as a defense against the false hope of ever being loved. They not only act out anti-socially but also seek to provoke hatred in parents, caregivers, and authority figures. At least in this comfort zone of mutual antagonism there is no risk of...
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Sam Vaknin's lecture about narcissistic parents in Rostov-on-Don, Russia. Translation to Russian: Ekaterina Buturlakina.
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Part 2 of Sam Vaknin's lecture about pathological narcissism in the Preobrazhenie psychotherapy clinic in Rostov-on-Don, Russia. Translation to Russian: Ekaterina Buturlakina.
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Part 1 of Sam Vaknin's lecture about pathological narcissism in the Preobrazhenie psychotherapy clinic in Rostov-on-Don, Russia. Translation to Russian: Ekaterina Buturlakina.
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Oct 8, 2016 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html There are two possible pathological reactions to childhood abuse and trauma: codependence and narcissism. They both involve fantasy as a defense mechanism: the codependent has a pretty realistic assessment of herself, but her view of others is fantastic; the narcissist’s self-image and self-perception are delusional and grandiose, but his penetrating view of...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Frustrating one's nearest and dearest has the dual "advantage" of simultaneously satisfying the narcissist's masochistic and sadistic urges. By withholding love, sex, intimacy, and the fulfillment of other people's desires and needs, the narcissist torments them even as he obstructs his own gratification. Self-sabotage, self-defeat, self-denial, and...
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Aug 21, 2016 Sam Vaknin
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html Narcissists exhibit the cognitive bias known as the “Dunning-Kruger effect”: they are deluded about the true level of their abilities, knowledge, and skills. But, they tend to sustain this delusion also by devaluing and underestimating others. Grandiosity can be conceived of as a set of cognitive biases constructed on an edifice of cognitive deficits which...
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Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html To avoid painful contradictions with reality or cognitive dissonances and also to ameliorate his raging abandonment or separation anxiety, the narcissist aims to micromanage and control his human environment by subsuming it or by merging and fusing with it (exactly as codependents do). His nearest and dearest are reduced to mere representations, avatars,...
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